Commercialising Romance or “I bought you this card now where’s my blowjob?”
Posted by: The Pagan And The Pervert, in Humour, LifeIt’s Valentine’s Day. To all you suckers romantics who celebrate this day I hope it’s lived up to your expectations.
I’m one of the girls who cannot understand the fuss. If it takes a specific date for your partner to show you he loves you then what do you have? Flowers that will die, a teddy bear made in a sweatshop by a three year old for 5 cents and a box of chocolates to comfort eat as you realise it took some commercialised day for him to show he cares.
My father always said that the year has 365 days. That’s 365 days to show and say “I love you, I care for you, I want you.” He maintained it was the days that were not co-opted by a greetings card company that were the days you should buy the flowers, the chocolates and the sweatshop bears (of which I have a collection so I’m not taking the moral high ground here).
My dad was what I consider to be a true romantic. He’d sing love songs to my mother, no matter how much she begged him not to, lyrics being reinvented with each new line. He’d buy her flowers saying that they reminded him of her beauty and he just had to show her. He’d buy her lingerie she’d never wear (too risqué apparently, but then she’d shun t-shirt nighties that showed her ankles as too racy…) He’d bake her treats that he knew she’d love (fortunately the recipe for mashed bananas and potatoes went with him to the grave.)
The Pervert is the same. Foot rubs, massages, nappy/diaper changes… little considerations that show he loves me without having to spend a small fortune. Little considerations that come everyday not just one highlighted on a calender.
Valentine was a saint. Light a candle for him. Return to the origins of the day. Ancients celebrated the thawing of the snows in the Northern Hemisphere and the returning fertility of the soil through sex and feasting. Don’t waste your money on one day. If you love someone let them know.
Everyday.
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February 15th, 2008 at 7:23 pm
While Mr SD and I do celebrate Valentine’s Day to some extent, I certainly agree that you should show love for each other on other days too. Mr SD did buy me roses for Valentine’s day but there are many other days during the year when he will buy me flowers for no reason.
And then, like you say, there are the little things that you do for each other every day, that may not be extravagant or cost money but they show that you love each other.
Ms SD
February 16th, 2008 at 10:13 pm
Well said Pagan. But it’s good to not forget V day as well…
February 16th, 2008 at 11:08 pm
Sexy Duet: It’s the crass commercialism that gets at me.
Fusion: I know many women who think of Valentine’s as the present meaning the person loves them more. I also know a large number of guys who equate V day with a way to get sex. I don’t “forget” V day, but for me everyday is Valentines. Having one day to celebrate things as important as love and romance, and in such a “you must spend” manner, upsets me.
Hugs
Pagan
February 18th, 2008 at 12:34 pm
I agree completely. I personally do not believe in the holiday and don’t celebrate it. I prefer the love all the time rather than the one day.
February 18th, 2008 at 11:35 pm
V day has become a total commercial day, like all of the other holidays.
The days before and the days after V day are the important days.
February 18th, 2008 at 11:40 pm
All of the holidays have become commercial cash generators.
The days before, and the days after the holiday are the
important ones.