I’ll preface this by saying that the Pagan and I haven’t yet had sex since the birth. But its not from lack of interest on her part!
Right back before the birth, the last few appointments with the ob-gyn when ‘after’ became part of the considerations, she was already asking. Doc, when will we be able to have sex again? In what must have struck him as an amusing switching of roles, it was me sitting there telling my hormone crazed wife that I was pretty sure she wouldn’t be even remotely interested for a good few weeks. That’s got to be normal, right?
My god, was I wrong!
Despite the pain of a c-section, the tiredness of a new baby and any number of other perfectly reasonable show stoppers, I’m pretty sure it was only the prospect of a nurse walking in (they never knocked!) that stopped her from climbing on top in the hospital. As it was she damn near gave me a hand job about 48 hours after giving birth.
The whole time we’ve been home we’ve been making out like teenagers. Its almost a novelty to again be able to reach right around each other when we hug and we’re taking full advantage of it! I’m so loving hugging her and caressing her bum again. I loved her pregnant, but I did miss that!
Around a week after we got home - about two weeks after the birth - we had a follow up appointment with our ob-gyn. And again she asks. Doc, when can we start having sex again? (For the record, his answer all along has been ‘you’ll know, trust your own judgement’.)
It couldn’t have been more than a day or two after that, certainly not more than three weeks in when she asked me to make love to her… gently, of course 
We’d been kissing and hugging for a while when she rolled on to her back and spread her legs for me. I lubed up and slid in gently… then there was pain. Penetration hurt, like she was bruised inside.
Can I tell you, she was very pissed off. She has a theory which fits in with something the doc said to her one time. We’re going back to the doc again soon to get some stuff she reckons will fix it up. Then I’m pretty sure I’m going to have to choose between sex and sleep again!
Right now I’m probably annoying her with my constant adulation… I’m just totally loving what her body can do. Give life, support life and turn me on, too… I’m married to the complete package
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November 13th, 2007 at 6:58 am
I’m married to the complete package
Sure sounds like it! you’re a lucky man there…
November 13th, 2007 at 7:46 am
That is so awesome. You guys are such an awesome couple!
November 14th, 2007 at 1:33 pm
Good for you. You two are great. I feel so bad for Pagan. The sex will come.
November 17th, 2007 at 2:18 pm
I remember that my husband and I haven’t had any sex for about three months after the delivery, but that’s only because I had a retained placenta problem for two months (don’t ask), and then took another month to recover from the surgery and the entire experience. And now I’ve just had a miscarriage and we haven’t had any intercourse yet, but I have to say we’ve been taking the best advantage of anal sex (which was always the favorite, anyway). (I don’t recommend that to you, just sharing).
November 18th, 2007 at 1:52 am
You guys are so damn sweet I could just vomit. Wait till you have another…….
XOXOXOXO
PS - I went to my 6 week follow up pregnant! YIKES
November 18th, 2007 at 7:11 am
I am in AWE!!!! After both my C-sections, I didnt even want to THINK about sex for months, my body was so traumatised. Hope the doc can give you something that will take the pain away quickly x
November 22nd, 2007 at 12:26 pm
Fusion… sure am
How’s Melbourne treating you, anyway?
love the new sexy-brat idea… we’ll send you something when we’re not exhausted 
EC… ta
Hey Chris… the sex will come, and perhaps then the Pagan will too
Severine… no the anal sex aint our gig, but best of luck all the same
TCW… uh, yeh, yikes is the word… mind you, the Pagan is very jealous
havingmycake… the Pagan does, too… I’m kind of afraid what will be unleashed, though… I don’t recall she’s ever gone 6 weeks without before